Break Free From
People Pleasing Addiction
Without Letting Anyone Down!
Do you ever feel like you're constantly going above and beyond for everyone else but feel like they never come through for you? At least never at the level of epicness they've come to expect from YOU?
Yuuup! I get it, and I can help!
One of the biggest problems in the world today is people giving their power away. When you've been raised and conditioned to believe it's your role...to sacrifice what your truly want...to show up for others before you show up for yourself...then yeah dude, it's easy to keep lying to yourself.
And when you give your power away your happiness and satisfaction becomes dependent on someone else and you become less and less important in your own mind.
This leads to a downward spiral of self-sacrifice, martyrdom and unworthiness.
And you can ask any psychologist where that spiral ends.
So, if you're interested (which duh! you should be because YOU DESERVE BETTER!) I'm going to show you how to reclaim your self-worth so you can STOP giving your power away and start to truly LIVE again...instead of staggering around like an exhausted zombie trying to force everyone else to be happy.
OH, and also, you're going to realize you can do all this AND STILL make everyone who truly loves you happy. Because they will be so inspired, so thrilled and so overjoyed at your newfound grace, confidence...and let’s be real...BALLS , that it will ignite the fires of self-development in their soul too.
(Legit, the highest service you can possibly provide another human being!)
So, who the F@CK am I and how was I gifted with these magical keys to your freedom?
Hi, I'm Ahdri
For DECADES I sold out my soul for the approval, acceptance and affection of others.
Stop me if you've LIVED this one before...
My family was THE family that always showed up. Whenever anyone in the community had any kind of emergency or tragedy or NEED, there we'd be...casseroles, cleaning supplies, money and the determination to fix their emotional process in hand.
Everyone knew they could call on us, and like a Kent woman Bat-Signal, we'd be there.
So I grew up learning to always show up for everyone else. I learned that "selfless service" was how we approached the world. That it was noble and honorable to "share the load" for everyone else, all the while the debilitating need to be liked and loved thinly veiled as loyalty and helpfullness.
But after my 16th birthday...it all blew up.
My Dad died.
Suddenly, all my family's repressed bullshit bubbled up to the surface. Years of emotional neglect, lack of self-care and REALNESS came up. 'Cause grief ain't got time for the SMALL sh!t...only the RAW, REAL sh!t.
It Was An Emotional Apocalypse
Did you know the word "apocalypse" actually means "un-veiling"?
And that's exactly what happened.
See, my dad had a lot of unresolved, neglected, buried down deep issues. He had shoved it all down so he could show up for everyone else. Blind to the devastation and total abandonment he would eventually cause for them, for US.
So when it all rose up to the surface, when it became too heavy to hold anymore, it ended with him taking his own life. Which, as much as I tried to pretend it wasn't - for the emotional comfort of others, was a truly intense and traumatic thing for a 16 year old to deal with. He had been our "fearless leader".
And then in a singular moment, he and his entire identity were gone.
It would be another 16 years before I would absorb that message.
That who we TRY to be isn't what we leave behind...in the wake of destruction all that's left is the pain and the wondering: "If only they had made themselves a priority"
In the meantime, almost overnight, all our emotional turmoil and dysfunctions came up FAST.
It was a crazy 180 from this idyllic, fairy-tale childhood to suddenly realizing our family dynamic was actually incredibly toxic.
So I did the only thing I knew how to do at the time...
...I leaned in even HARDER to forcing love on others, and care-giving.
I immediately went out and found someone to take care of.
I got married.
And spent the next 7 years working jobs I had no interest in, going to culinary school to "support" my husband, and generally playing out all sorts of self-sacrificing martyr programs.
That's right! I went to college for a degree I had NO interest in to "support" someone else.
Looking at it now, I can see how insane it sounds...but when you're inside the bubble of People Pleasing Addiction, it seems like the only option.
So, whether you see these patterns in yourself right now, or you're still not sure if this is for you, really focus on how this makes you FEEL.
Do you have a sinking feeling in your gut?
Do you here your inner captive Queen/King going "MmmHmmmmmm!" ?
Is your FEAR already trying to sabotage your emotional growth by whispering in your ear, "Who will love us if we change?"
Or maybe you feel something is just OFF in your world, but it's hard to put a finger on it, because you're doing everything "right" but you're still so tired...and so unhappy.
Whatever you're feeling right now...it's OKAY!
The hardest step is acknowledging...admitting even, that you want change.
It's hard, but worth it! Because life becomes a million times more magical and exciting once you break free from this addiction!
I Know Because I Did It
I began "waking up" to the inauthentic life I had been living...I looked into my future and saw where I would be if I didn't change...
And it chilled me to the bone.
I didn't want to live my whole life trying to make other people happy!
I realized I would NEVER be happy until I made it out of that programming.
AND I realized that it was NOT my burden...
NOT my cross to bear...
NOT MY PROBLEM.
Like a Cosmic "DUH!" I realized I was adopting everyone else's problems as if they were my own, trying to solve them for others, instead of solving my own biggest problem...self worth, self acceptence, self love.
I had to grow up, and admit that I wasn't being authentic or real with myself.
I had to stop lying to myself.
I had to stop allowing myself to be invisible.
And when I did, I made an important realization...
I Deserved Better
As soon as I admitted that to myself, things began to change.
The biggest work I had to do was psychological, around my unconscious program.
Honestly, it was the hardest thing I've ever done. (And I've run a full marathon with a fractured foot)
At first it felt like the most selfish thing in the world. I had to go against EVERYTHING I had been told about myself, and what I SHOULD do.
Throwing away years of ideology and conditioning doesn't happen overnight.
The worst part was, I couldn't get the thing I needed most...support.
Because my friends and family didn't want to help me out of this addiction.
ANY OTHER ADDICTION, people will bend over backwards to help.
But People Pleasing?
Nope. No way.
Because when you suffer from PPA, the people you care about most are the ones directly benefiting from it!
Before you freak out, don't worry! You're not surrounded by evil-doers waiting with cloven hoofies to take advantage of your selflessness and hold you captive in your toxic cycle of addiction.... it's simply because their own unconscious conditioning will keep them from showing up with the true support and guidance you need.
It was a tough pill to swallow, but I had to realize that no-one else was going to do it for me.
No matter how much they loved me.
Because no matter how much...they could never love me as much as I could eventually love myself.
And you know what?
I'm incredibly grateful for all the resistance, both from myself and from those around me.
Because it gave me insight into just how hard it can be to break free from this addiction.
And now I'm able to show up and share my methods, tools, techniques and tips with others who are in the thick of it, and need a way OUT.
Once I had made these shifts in my perspectives, emotions and ultimately my ACTIONS...it was like a light bulb came on for everyone else. They saw me happier, freer, more confident in my self worth than ever before. They saw me using my real, authentic voice, and genuinely loving life like a CHILD again...and in some cases, for the first time ever.
And the FEELS were so contagious, you know what they did?
They Begged Me To Teach Them
It took a bit of convincing. I was focused on helping women with body issues.
But kicking People Pleasing Addiction's ass?
Could I actually teach a course on that? Do people actually want to learn about that?
Were there really THAT MANY others out there who were suffering as much as I had?
Well I did, they do, and there ARE!
First I ran the course as a test, working one-on-one with me, and then expanding out into group programs.
I had to make sure it worked %100 before rolling it out, that it really was applicable and customizeable to every type of People Pleaser out there.
Now, I'm officially ready to offer it to the world
The People Pleasers Autonomous Master Program
This is the first course EVER released to tackle and conquer this addiction.
It's the result of years of studying, testing methods, my own therapy, events, experts, you name it and I've probably been through it to absorb what would help YOU best!
Because I care.
And because I need to KNOW it works.
I don't want to be some dime-a-dozen McCoach, regurgitating half baked theories from infomercials...BLARF!..no thanks!
I cut the fat away. Dug deep into my own psychology, and worked with dozens of others to isolate the REAL issues.
The deep-rooted icky sticky, unconventional stuff that no-one likes to talk about.
Then I created the methodology to blast those old beliefs right out of your system in the fastest, most effective and reliable way possible.
So...what exactly is in this powerful transformational program?
To start, it's a radical shift in your priorities and beliefs. So, if you choose to go on this journey with me now I am going to give you absolute clarity and truth.
I have NO hidden agenda.
I don't care if you like me, I CARE about your addiction recovery.
I'm not here to be your friend, I'm here to teach you to be YOUR OWN friend.
So bring your big girl panties, big boy britches or non-binary undies and get ready to experience a whole new world of behavioral addiction recovery and support...
Here's a preview of what you can expect in my course
•The hidden saboteur of your emotional progress (and how to "wash it out" of your system)
•Mouse, Phoenix, or Pitbull - which one are you? How to identify and WHY you need to know your unique disposition to determine which strategies to use for YOUR healing.
•The "A&F Meditation" which will empower you to keep your clarity and clear away "reality-fog" immediately
•The "Magic Button" you can push whenever you feel the need to start over (YES this does exist and it's surprisingly easy and effective)
•How to avoid self-induced spirals of shame and abandonment.
•How to escape the incurable "thought cancer" which zaps your energy and crushes your spirit.
•The crucial "positive+" or "negative-" energetic decisions you have to make (this will change how you look at all interactions within your relationships)
•How you might be subtly talking down to your partner (and friends)
•How to stop coaching, lecturing and teaching so you can start having REAL conversations.
•Why you SHOULD be reactionary (this is key to authentic emotional expression and WILL improve all your relationships...by a LOT)
•The mystical manifesting power of a "Nightmare List"
•How to clear the emotional fog which hijacks and weaponizes your empathy to feed your fear and self sabotage
•The amazing power of your Pussy to heal your relationship with yourself (yasss, we go there)
Any MEN at this point fixing the click the X on this page, now would be a good time to...
•How to break the illusion of control with a simple yellow legal pad
•The "dominant stance" mindset trap which sneakily sacrifices ease and grace for negative energy cycles
•How to reprogram anxiety to be your ally rather than your enemy
•How to harness the gift of your Empathy rather than the curse
•Why "Passion Pulls" will realign your energy with the direction of JOY, ABUNDANCE and LOVE (the REAL stuff, not the new-age shelf-help fake-it-till-you-make-it stuff)
•The one, unavoidable thing you must evaluate to reclaim your energy and empowerment (it can be uncomfortable, but you HAVE to do this)
•How to develop stronger relationships through conflict
•How to strengthen your relationship with yourself, and begin to re-build a connection to your true core essence
I've taken all these processes and created a 6-module course, complete with a members only area, video instructions, guided meditations, workbooks and personal support.
I do want to stress that the course is only going to work if you're committed.
(I know, super duh right? But you'd be surprised how many "magic pill" seekers there are out there!)
And once you make the decision that YOU ARE COMMITTED, you'll notice it starting to work, immediately. That's that magic we talked about!
You'll feel more energized...
You'll feel more aligned...
You'll feel more powerful...
You'll feel excited about life again...
You'll realize how much more people appreciate you when you truly take a stand for your real self.
No-one will love you any less.
They will love you more, once you work through the uncomfortable parts of reclaiming your value.
In fact, I'm even willing to put my money where my mouth is!
UNCONDITIONAL MONEY BACK GUARANTEE
You can feel totally safe making this investment in yourself because I am going to make it exponentially easier for you.
Here's the deal:
If for ANY REASON, you don't like the course, you have a full 60 days from your purchase to ask me for a refund.
Don't like my voice?
You get your money back!
Decide you want to keep sacrificing your happiness for others?
You get your money back!
Don't want to do the work?
You get your money back!
So really, you have zero risk here.
Either the course works for you brilliantly, and you reclaim your energy and snatch back the steering wheel of your LIFE...
or, you get your money back.
It's a win-win.
You're probably wondering how much this is going to cost, right?
We're getting there! (remember NO hidden agendas here) I just need to ask you one question before we do...the question I wish someone would've asked my dad...
What Is Your Life Worth?
Listen, as People Pleasers, asking you to invest in yourself is like asking a fish to fly.
But I want you to really check in with yourself right now...
Ask yourself, what would happen to my family if I wasn't there for them?
What will happen if you keep on fostering resentment towards others by not honoring your self?
What is it already costing you and everyone around you to not be living your authentic life?
So, the answer to "What is your life worth" you probably came up with...is "priceless"
(And if you heard a voice saying "it's worthless" or "everyone would be fine without me" then lady, you NEED to buy this program right now!)
You have to make a decision that no matter what, YOU ARE WORTH IT.
So, here it is.
I could easily charge many thousands of dollars for this course, because there's nothing else like it.
It's like a Monet painting, totally unique and not to toot my own horn y'all, but it's kind of a work of art!
Hell, I've spent over $30,000 of my own money in just the last few years on extra trainings, readings, events and courses ON TOP of what my own life experience and professional guidance has cost me to this point, to acquire this knowledge.
And even then, it would be less than spending $5,000 or $10,000 on a therapist...or years of your life trying to figure it out on your own.
But I want it to be a real no-brainer for you, which is why I'm offering
First, you can buy the course right now and get lifetime password protected access to the self-paced People Pleasers Autonomous Master Program for just three payments of $400.
You will get all the video modules, all the worksheets, and the entire
self-guided program you need to stop going above and beyond for everyone else...and never going anywhere for yourself.
You can take your time with this. Not needing to take any time off from your life, or give up any responsibilities as you move through this work at your own pace. Even if you can only spare an hour a week, you'll move through this whole program and into your birthright joy, abundance and freedom within a couple months!
You can apply to work with me one-on-one for 3 months.
This includes everything in the self-guided course, plus the added bonus of NINE 1-hour sessions with me to coach, guide and advise you on your journey. We will go deeper into the specific modules and video lessons to find out how best to integrate them into your individual experience and life.
This costs more than the self-study program, and requires a brief 15 minute call with me to make sure we're a good fit.
***Because I require a full soul-deep commitment to work one-on-one with clients the money back guarantee does not apply here***
So there you have it, your TWO choices.
Now it's time to make a decision for what you want. It's time to choose how YOU want to reclaim your life, command your self-worth and dive into your new world headfirst.
One Final Thing...
I wanted to say one more thing here...while I have your attention.
It might not be something you hear often.
And it’s crucial you start to hear it right now.
Thank you for all you do.
On behalf of all the people you support, all the times you've shown up when no-one else would, THANK YOU!
You are a precious gift to this planet, and I know sometimes it might seem like you have to exist in this role forever...but it's not true!
When I was just 23, in the last year of the marriage I rushed into to avoid coping with my dad's death...
I got pregnant.
It was an accident, and I knew I wasn't really ready...but I actually got excited thinking "Oh wow! I can find a family that wants to adopt, and give them the incredible gift of a child!"
(yeah, that's where my head was at)
But then something unexpected happened...
And over the last 10years, I've had 4 more miscarriaged...which leads me to think I'm not really here to have children.
So I don't get to pass along all the love and kindness my parents showed me to my own children.
I don't get to teach them what I've learned about honoring myself, living an empowered life and using my voice.
My hope, and passion is that with this program, and the women I help rise up, that the message will get out into the world and mothers & fathers can pass along this wisdom to their children, and so on.
Thank you for reading, thank you for choosing to value yourself (whether you invest in this course or not) thank you for everything you do for the world. You are worthy, you are loved.